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It’s Ok to be You!

Updated: Jan 12

As a content creator, you are always in the light of the public, getting the attention of being noticed for your work; it sometimes makes you so self-conscious of who you are, what you care about, and how you see yourself. It always feels like you have put on a show and not be yourself because people expect you to be that person they see in your content.

It’s ok to be you and at ObsidianPeople, we embrace you being

you if it doesn’t hurt others.

This article is based on a conversation I had with my four children about being yourself and loving the skin you are in.

It All Started With A Song

I was having a horrible week, fighting the most challenging time with writers’ block, and started questioning if I was doing the right thing by pursuing my business and passion. I was struggling with my day job. I was just in a crappy mood. So, I made an upbeat playlist so that I could fight my mood.

As I searched for new songs, I ran across this piece By Ashley Dubose called BE YOU. This song is several years old, but it was new to me. As I listened, something clicked in my head; I started to cry.

Not because I was sad because it seemed like she was speaking to me in a way that made

me think. Was I not being myself? Am I allowing rumors about my past to stop me from being me?

After hearing this song inspired me just to be myself as authentic as possible, no

matter what people think they know about me. I didn’t need to be anything else

but who God put me here to be. So that one song prompted me to make a playlist

of 36 songs that keep my spirits high. I made an affirmation just for when I am

too hard on myself.

I am strong

It’s ok to be human

I am successful

I work hard for what I want

I am divinely guided

I walk with God and my ancestors

I am that chick!!!

Nothing can stop my glow!

Like the artistic mom, I wanted to share this song with my children and talk to them

about not trying to fit in and just being yourself. Like what you like, do what

you love and be happy no matter its difference.

The song has become our anthem on school mornings. Every morning we play this song and sing the lyrics. This reminds my children and me that it’s ok to be yourself in this world. No matter what others say you don’t have to follow the crowd. Create your lane and walk it.

Embracing Who You Are

In this conversation, I told my kids to embrace who they are. “We all had people

challenge what we liked and who we were as kids.

This was the case when I started to find my way in the world. I was always a bit